CNN reports today…
Country singer Sara Evans alleges in divorce papers that her husband [Craig Schelske] committed adultery, was verbally and emotionally abusive, drank excessively and frequently watched pornography in their home…
The couple married in 1993 and have three children ages 7, 3 and 2…
In the filing in state court in suburban Franklin, where the couple has a home, Evans alleges that Schelske watched pornography on the couples’ computers and has at least 100 nude photographs of himself in a state of arousal…
According to the court documents, the oldest of the couple’s children confronted Schelske when he was watching pornographic material on the television in their home.
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Excerpt from Laurie Hall, An Affair of the Mind…
In my own situation, although I was careful with my clothes and figure, I found that my husband was increasingly critical of the way I looked. Even when friends and acquaintances told me I was an attractive woman, I wasn’t attractive enough to compete with eternally young, surgically altered models.
Jack also expressed irritation when I was uncomfortable with some of the sexual practices he’d seen in pornographic magazines. In the end, he lost all interest in me as a sexual partner. This had a devastating impact on my view of my worth as a woman. It created such despair in me that I began to let my appearance go. At last, I looked the way his rejection made me feel–totally unlovely. Then I received the picture of me in my wedding dress. Shocked at how far I had deteriorated, I promised myself I’d do whatever was necessary to reclaim the girl in the photograph.
Over the years, I’ve spoken with other women who have had similar experiences. They tried extra hard to be attractive to their husbands; but the year-after-year battering of constant comparisons with other women and the continual attack on their desirability as a sexual partner wounded their spirits to such a point that they gave up and became the exact opposite of the firm, gorgeous, beautifully made-up women their husbands kept trying to force them to become. Ironic, isn’t it, how pornography creates the exact opposite in real life of what it promises in fantasy life?