Statement of Rev. Susan Wilhelm: “…the sex became especially abusive after he started using pornography” (explicit language)

Anti-porn activists held a press conference in Minneapolis on July 25, 1984. This statement is published in In Harm’s Way: The Pornography Civil Rights Hearings (p.263-264).

Statement of Rev. Susan Wilhelm

Most of my sex life with my ex-husband was very abusive. He had a lot of pornography around the house, both the slicks and the hard core. He went to Rochester [Minn.] to buy it. It made him expect that I would want to do crazy things. He kept saying our sex life was, and I was, dull, blah, unfun. When we first married, he did not use pornography and did not drink. He started drinking first. But the sex became especially abusive after he started using pornography. He got his ideas from it. Having sex how he wanted it was nonnegotiable…

He exposed me to the pornography, too. Once we saw an X-rated film that showed anal intercourse. After that, he pressed me to try it. I agreed to once, but found the experience very painful. He kept trying periodically. He told me my vagina had become as sloppy as an old sow’s and he could not get pleasure any other way. He also used to pinch and bite me. When I said “it hurts,” he would say, “no, it doesn’t.” I became numb. I lost track of my own feelings. One time, he said in reference to himself sexually, “it’s supposed to hurt.”

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Martin Amis: “A rough trade” (explicit)
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stuff. He started to spit on girls. A strong male-dominant thing, with
women being pushed to their limit. It looks like violence but it’s not.
I mean, pleasure and pain are the same thing, right? Rocco is driven by
the market. What makes it in today’s market place is reality.”

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